“We are all varying degrees of crazy but if you can learn what part of the crazy is YOURS, HIS and OURS, it will help you make better choices for the long-term health of the marriage.”
That’s what one of our readers told us in response to our January2014 survey called, If You’d Known Then What You Know Now. The idea was to find out what things they would change if survey respondents had known before marriage some of the things they learned after marriage…
First impressions can tell us a lot. In fact, in this country, we’re practically obsessed with them: We have too much hair. We don’t have enough hair. The hair is in all the wrong places. And where did all that gray hair come from?
We’re so obsessed with first impressions that we have designer bodies, hair, and shoes. And we drive sports cars that cost as much as small houses…
It’s February 14, Valentine’s Day. You may love it or hate it, look forward to it or dread it. But there’s no ignoring it with all the floral shop and jewelry store commercials, and the not-so-subtle “blackmail” by greeting card makers.
It’s a bit like Christmas when you think about it.
No Valentine’s Day Commercial Here
If you’re expecting me to “wax poetic” and write in sugary prose about the importance of Valentine’s Day, forget it….
You’ve probably heard that old saying, “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” It’s all about envy, longing, and regret. Our “neighbor” has something we don’t, something we want, a reason for envy.
You’ve probably also heard that there are hidden imperfections on the other side of that fence—that the grass isn’t really greener over there at all. You only think it is.
Maybe the Grass IS Greener
Well, let me challenge conventional wisdom and tell you that sometimes the grass really IS greener on the other side. Not always, certainly, but sometimes…
Ever wish you had a time machine? How many opportunities would you go back and grab? How many mistakes would you avoid? Would you have handled things differently in your marriage?
Well, the bad news is nobody’s come up with that time machine yet. So let’s forget about those do-overs. The good news, though, is that we can learn from the past, make better decisions now, and help others avoid some of our mistakes…
Chances are, you’ve heard the story of Adam and Eve. And if you’ve heard even one sermon on marriage, you’ve heard Genesis 2:18: “It’s not good that the man should be alone.”
Did you come away from the message believing that being single meant being incomplete or somehow broken? And did you get the message—intended or not—that marriage would “fix” you? Well, I don’t buy it. Singles are neither broken nor incomplete. Read on, and see if you agree with me…